10 Ways You Can Take Your Sex Life From 0 To 100 - Part One

There comes a time when your sex life becomes somewhat boring
perhaps because you’re passing through some form of stress or
the other. It is important you consider sex as an important
ingredient necessary for the survival of your relationship or
marriage that you notice a decline in your normal sexual activities.
For this reason, if you find out that your libido is at an all time
low and you’re looking to bolster your sex life in general look no
further as we bring 10 sex tips guaranteed to take your sex life
from 0 to 100 real quick.

▪ Rethink how you define sex.

Getting too caught up in what your sex life should be like is a
common thing for people but if you decide to open up your mind
and talk about the things you think would make your sex life
awesome. Truth is you and your spouse can have very intimate and
loving connection when it comes to eroticism and sex which can help
the both of you achieve orgasm. It is easier for some people to
achieve orgasm while having sex in a mechanical and uninteresting
manner. Some people on the other hand may achieve orgasm
sparsely and some form of dislike and discomfort with penetration
(especially women). These people may however enjoy the closeness
and intimacy that comes with cuddling and physical contact. For
this reason, it’s better you don’t put yourself in anyone’s shoes
when it comes to accepting what they determine as awesome sex.
Carve out your niche. Other people may orgasm infrequently, or
dislike penetration, but love the intimacy and physical closeness
they share with their partner. As such. Lot of things can count
for wonderful sexual experiences from lying in bed with someone
you care for to intimate and erotic kisses and smooching provided
that’s what you want it to be.

▪ Let go of some of the emotional baggage you’ve been carrying.

In recent times, it’s become normal for people to multitask by
juggling so many things together at once. At other times we are
much too busy with our lives and getting to the top of our careers
that we forget to stop and take those short breaths and rest
which are essential for other areas of our existence such as our
sex life. The truth is when it comes to sexual activity, it is
essential you allow your partner access to the deepest parts of the
gender they belong to. Let the man be masculine and the female
feminine as this would help both partners open up themselves to
what their partners intend to give. Even though this seems old
fashioned and perhaps sexist, it’s actually a way to bring out the
best of you both.

▪ Try out a sex diet.

A lot of people know the kind of negative things that come with
some of our regular diets and how difficult it is to stay off a
particularly harmful diet once one is addicted to it. This may
somewhat apply to sex and a good way of having an excellent sex
life is to try taking off sometime from having sex. This sounds
odd but actually taking a three or four week break from sex would
be a good way for you to reconnect and discover new ways of
satisfying yourself and your partner sexually. Trying out the no
sex rule would help you to learn once again, how to turn your
partner on and get them to that orgasmic state including the fact
that it will help you introduce newer ideas into love making. It
sounds crazy, doesn’t it? But trying this out will sure help your sex
life.

▪ Make your bedroom as comfortable as possible.

The power of a neat and clean environment can never be
underestimated. As such it is important you make your environment
as comfortable as possible for sex, as it may be the factor that
would make the difference between sleeping off the minute you
hit the bedroom or going through some much needed action. You
can try clearing out anything not related to sex from your
bedroom such as paper work from your office and toys of your
kids. Create a sexual atmosphere by lighting candles and playing
nice R&B music to set the tone for some awesome sex. Try out new
ideas when it comes to making the bedroom environment sexy as
this as an effect on your mind and boosts your drive for sex. This
is generally good for your relationship or marriage.

To be continued…

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RATED BEST SEX POSITION OF THE WEEK:REVERSE COWGIRL

Men love nothing more than a sexy woman calling the shots when it
comes to sex and sometimes they want to savor every sensation
without working up much of a sweat. Ladies, why don’t you get on
top this week and take charge?

Your partner lies on his back, his legs straight out in front of him
with a pillow under his head so he can watch the action. You
straddle him facing away while he holds your upper thighs or butt
tightly as you thrust.

Be creative! Move in circles, increasing stimulation for yourself
without driving him over the edge. You can stroke the inside of his
legs and testicles with your hands or, if you’re incredibly
dexterous, your lips.

This position gives you maximum control as you decide the speed
and angle of thrusting, the total visual and tactile access to your
backside will drive your man nuts too.

Difficulty factor
Erotic factor

Are you a rider or do you prefer more traditional positions? Go on
and share your views.

image credit: www.goodtoknow.co.uk

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#Lifestyle - 7 Reasons Why You Should Have #Sex Everyday

A whole lot of stuff has been written and a whole lot of things
will still be written about the benefits of sex. However, a whole
lot of the benefits written about sex and why couples should engage in it mostly centers around partners achieving orgasm.

Some people seem to forget that to actually achieve orgasm,
you have to be with someone you sexually connect with.

Of course, there are lots of articles that abound on intriguing
sex tips which people that are not in a committed relationship
can engage in so as to enjoy the self-pleasuring effect and
benefits that come with sex, especially as it relates to having good and healthy orgasms. So, irrespective of the side of the divide you belong to, either as a couple or a solo being, check
out this list of healthy side effects of sex:

▪Improved heart condition

The importance of healthy sex in relation to good heart activity
cannot be overemphasised. Just like other forms of physical
activity, studies have found out that sex is a tonic for good
heart rate. Research has shown that the risk of a person who
engages in regular sex and has good orgasms frequently having,
suffering or dying from heart disease issues such as a
cerebrovascular accident (stroke) or heart attacks is at the
minimum. And if you’ve ever found yourself worrying about the
physical exertion that comes with having sex and the effects it
has on the heart, studies have also shown that the most sexually
intense moments (assuming you aren’t unusually vigorous in your activities) gives off approximately the same amount of energy as it takes to walk at the rate of 4 to 6 miles an hour.And it definitely helps you, your heart, and your sex life to exercise and stay in shape overall.

▪Sweet pain relief

It has been proven by psychologists that looking directly at your
partner or even at a picture of them can help ease whatever
pain you may be feeling. During the course of a research, some
anesthesiologists showed people photographs of their romantic
partners or photos of attractive strangers, and asked them to
engage in a word game. They found that looking at romantic
partners significantly dulled and reduced the experience of pain.
So even though you may think pain is a barrier to sex, consider
the pain that comes with sex as one of the benefits that is
worth the time and effort invested in it. Make out time to take
long states at your lover. Moreover, some other studies have
also found out that another way women may get relief from
menstrual cramps may be to achieve orgasm.

▪Less stress

Healthy sex has been found to offer almost the same type of
soothing comfort and effects that sugary foods give as regards
reducing stress. Researchers have come up with a theory that
the reduction in stress occurs mostly because the pleasure
pathways of the brain are triggered by sex, just as they are,
for some, by sweet treats. And perhaps the effects of sex as a
form of reducing stress has a much more last longing effect
than we often think.

▪Cancer prevention

Other research studies have also suggested that men may be
able to reduce the risk and chances of having prostate cancer
proportionately by having their testicles appropriatelystimulated and having frequent and good orgasms. While more
research is on going on this subject matter, it would be a
welcome development and sex benefit to all male folk.

▪Better sleep

Although scientists do not have a good grasp of the way and
manner in which sex helps to improve sleep patterns, ample
evidence exists that it actually does. As such, don’t be
surprised if you find out that you and your partner doze off the
moment you’re done with a gratifying and fulfilling sex bout -
and you both wake up hours later feeling refreshed and rejuvenated!

▪Better mood

If you’ve ever had sex, you’d know that post sex positive
outlook that comes after. This can be explained from the angle
of the various biochemical reactions that occur after sex which
help to experience improved mood. This is a major sex benefit
which we owe to the neurotransmitters which are released
during sexual activity and other mood enhancers that are
released with semen. And of course, there’s also that effect of
the after sex feel that boosts your mood and that of your
partners which come as a result of having some form of
connection with someone you love.

▪Glowing skin

Everyone can relate to that fabled morning after glow that has
been attributed to sex for ages. It is not just some fabled
imagination as people really do look better after having sex. Sex
has been found to help people look younger and the glow that is
seen as been found out to be a combination of the flush of blood
under the skin which is a part of the arousal process and a
combination of good mood and stress relief.

Enjoying a healthy sex life should be seen as one of the great
joys of life to be lived and knowing that sexual intimacy can be a
boost for your health as well makes it a more pleasurable thing
to be experienced.

PhotoCredit: ownboudoir.com

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#Sex - 5 Things That Can Destroy Your Sex Life

Ever wondered why can destroy your sex life? Find out here and ways you can save it

1. Poor Nutrition

people who don’t eat well are bound to have problem with their sex life. According to a journal that was published in the” Journal Of Sex And Marital Therapy”, a clinical study shows that nutritional supplement significantly increases sexual desire,satisfaction with sexual relationship and improves vaginal dryness. So, eating healthy balanced diet can boost your sex drive more than you can imagine. But really, who wants to have sex when they have had nothing good to eat in a long while;absolutely nobody. Poor nutrition is a sure way to destroy your sex life.

2. Stress:

Stress is a common factor when it comes to depletion of sex drive. It is hard to not be stressed when you have a lot on your mind especially how to survive the hustle of the day, create a better means of livelihood for yourself and deal with the various hectic conditions that come with living in a country like Nigeria where you have poor electricity supply, terrible roads that lead to even more terrible traffic, delay in the payment of salary,unemployment and so on. Your mind is filled with truck load of worries and of course, sex is the least of those worries. In no time, your sex life will begin to suffer and your drive for sex will no longer be what it used to be. In order to counter stress, try calming exercises like deep breathing, meditation or yoga.

You can also listen to music to calm you. Good health and nutrients are other ways you can battle stress.

3. Low energy:

Sleep is one of the major causes of low energy and low energy is also one of the major things that can destroy your sex drive.

When you’re tired, sex is the least thing on your mind and it feels like a burden. It is advisable to get enough sleep in order to boost sex drive.Go to bed earlier than you normally do, take a relaxing bath, light body massage or foot rub before you go to bed in order to improve your sleep quality. It is also a very great idea to have sex in the morning as the energy is always high then especially after a fitful night sleep.

4. Terrible Timing:

We can all agree that there are times when we are not in the mood for any form of romance at all especially times when you are anxious, depressed or in a foul mood.

It is hard to feel any passion at these times and so, when the partner meets them for sex, it often feels as if they are being cornered or pressured into doing what they are not meant to do.This will make you always cringe at the idea of sex and run completely from it.Lack of “us time” with your partner can also ruin you sex drive. Find time for your partner and always try to meet him halfway.

5. Medical conditions:

Medical conditions like low hormone levels, erectile dysfunction, pelvic pains etc are also major things that can ruin your libido.

As you grow older or when you start to notice your sex drive dropping and it is not any of the above, consult your doctor for a thorough medical checkup. Do not wait till it is totally bad before you go for a thorough examination at the hospital.

When you notice your partner’s sex drive dropping, you should be of help by asking them what is going on and be open to learn to get better. Lack of communication can also ruin your sex drive.

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Football player arrested for killing his girlfriend after finding out she was transgender

21 year old popular Texas college football player
Carlton Ray Champion Jr. (left) has been
charged with the murder of 24yr old transgender
woman, Ty Underwood ()right, who was killed on
Jan. 26th

Police first caught a break in the case when
Ty's roommate, Kedrick Darks, told police
Underwood had been dating a man named
“Carlton” for several weeks prior to her
death.

Police say they interviewed
Champion, who confirmed that he had been
communicating via a service called “Kik”
with Underwood, who was going by “Tyra”
on the service.
They were able to search
Champion’s tablet computer and allegedly
discovered communications between
Champion and Underwood dating back to
January 19, 2015.
“After reading the text between Champion, Jr.

and Underwood, it was clear that the two have
had sexual relations with each other,” one
detective wrote. The investigation revealed a
series of messages between Champion and
Underwood on January 25 in which Underwood
was angry with Champion for initially agreeing to
meet in person that night and then backing out.

Underwood sent a message saying she no longer
wanted to see Champion, to which he allegedly
responded: "That’s how it is now, I will make it
up.”

After that, there was allegedly some additional
conversation about where and how they would
meet, and whether it would be at a Texas
College or along a random street. The
conversation makes it appear they were to meet
on 25th street.

The investigators also obtained
surveillance video allegedly depicting Champion
exiting his dorm early on the morning of January
26 following the Kik conversation.
They say Champion met up with Ty - and when
he found out he was born a male, Champion
allegedly killed him.

One of the detectives interviewed Champion’s
father and wrote “[Champion’s father] stated
that Carlton Jr. was meeting [Underwood] and
thought [Underwood] was female. According to
[Champion’s father], Carlton Jr. was supposed
to get some type of sexual favor from
[Underwood] but realized [Underwood] was a
male.”
Additionally, investigators say Champion’s jacket
worn at the time of the murder tested positive
for blood in a preliminary test that’s too basic to
determine whose blood was sampled.

Source: CBSTV

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''He's too Big Down There, Lasts for Too Long'' - Wife Complains on FB

A woman posted this on Facebook complaining
about how big her hubby's d'1ck is, says he
lasts for too long, and she is just not enjoying
her sex life anymore. She wants to see a divorce
lawyer or report him to the police. See her
complete FB post below..

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57 Years Old Dies During Marathon S'ex With Okada Rider

One Akodogbo Doheto, a 60-year-old ‘okada’
rider in Lagos is presently cooling off in police
custody after his 57-year-old lover died during
their s'ex romp.

Nigeriafilms.com gathered that, the sad incident,
which happened in the Salu area of Badagry, has
thrown the two families and residents of the
area into confusion as no one could tell the
circumstances that led to the woman's demise.

It was gathered from reports that the deceased,
who worked at Badagry General Hospital as a
nurse before she retired, has been having an
affair with Doheto in the past two years and they
have severally ‘played matches’ on bed without
any incidence, but such was not the case on
January 2, 2015, when the unexpected
happened. His lover slumped and died in the
heat of the moment.

But some have said that woman had been
having health issues in the past and the two had
stayed away from each other until they met and
rekindled their love affair during the yuletide
season during a community carnival.
According Doheto, a father of one, who is now in
police detention, Fairet had visited him on the
sad day and after expended themselves on the
bed, Fairet slept off.
Trouble, however, reared its ugly head when he
woke up the next morning to discover the
lifeless body of his lover.

"We have been lovers for more than two years,
but we had to end the relationship because of
her health condition. She is hypertensive.

“But we met during the carnival in Badagry and
we discussed. We spent time together and had a
lot of fun together at the carnival.
“Like school children, the old flame was
rekindled and we decided to continue the affair.

She agreed to spend the night at my place. By
the time I woke up in the morning, I tried to
wake her up, but she did not move; her body
had already become lifeless and stiff. I was
alarmed and alerted my neighbours.
“They said this was beyond them and that the
police needs to be involved.

That was how the
police was contracted. I did not kill her.
“We were lovers. She came to my house on
January 2 at about 8.30pm. When we came
back from the carnival, we had just one round of
sex, after which we both slept on the bed, and
there was no problem.

“I am not responsible for her death. She was
hypertensive and it might be her condition that
caused her sudden death. I work as an ‘okada’
rider. I am married and have one child, but my
wife does not stay with me," Doheto narrated.

The case, which was initially reported at the
Badagry Divisional Police, is currently being
investigated at the State Criminal Investigation
Department, SCID, Yaba, Lagos.

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My husband is threatening me because I refused him blow job

This morning at work I got this message
from my hubby concerning my refusal to
give him blow job based on my conviction
that it's wrong.

Pls I am confused. This
thing is unnatural, d**ks are not meant for
mouth but vagina.........below is the mail...
D**ks are not meant for what but for what?
Abeg woman calm down and do the needful
jor...lol. As long as he's your husband.

See the
husband's mail after the cut
Five years into our marriage. On the issue
of Blow job. I beg you every time to give
me. You refused blatantly calling my bluff.
If I mention it when we are about to have
sex or having sex you will turn or stand up
dress up and thats the end of
sex.Meanwhile I suck your pussy everytime
we have sex.
You love it you even tell me
where you want my tongue to touch so
that you can get maximum pleasure. I
always obliged. You scream in moan. You
most times orgasm from it.

I know you love
it. When I ask you to give me, you tell me
as Christians it's unnatural,dicks are not
meant for mouth but vagina and nothing
can change your mind about it no matter
how hard i try . its a sin and dirty and can
never imagine yourself doing it that if left to
you, you wouldn't allow me to suck you but
I always insists. I have never received blow
job before I only want to know how it feels
but you chose to deprive me of this
experience. Anyway note that the day I stop
sucking your pussy and stop beggng you to
give me.

I have found solutions to my
problems. Heaven knows I have tried.

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Nigerian Pr*stitutes Endorse Buhari, Declare 3 Days Of Free S*x If He Wins

Commercial s*x workers in the country under the aegis of the National Association of Nigerian Pr*stitutes, NANP, have thrown their weight behind the Presidential candidate of the All Progressives Congress, Gen. Muhammadu Buhari.NANP said it would declare a-three day free s*x across the country if president Jonathan eventually loses the seat to Gen. Muhammadu Buhari of APC.

A statement signed by the group’s General Secretary, Jessica Elvis noted that NANP was not happy with Jonathan’s government over the way commercial sex workers were being treated in the country since he assumed office as the first citizen.
Recall that the group had in 2013 declared one-week free sex after the Super Eagles defeated Burkina Faso to lift the AFCON trophy after almost 20 years.

It described Jonathan’s government as the worst in the history of Nigeria, saying that it recorded the lowest income during his tenure.

The statement also quoted Elvis as saying that several approaches to the presidency to legalize prostitution were turned down.
Abraham who heads the Nigerian chapter of African Sex Workers Alliance (ASWA) and the Women of Power Initiative (WOPI), led the protests with demonstrators wearing T-shirts screaming “Sex work is work, we need our rights”.

“We are tired of dying in silence; we want to be able to practice our profession with pride like every other person. We want an end to name-calling and stigmatisation. We are sex workers and not asawo [a derogatory Yoruba name for prostitutes]”, She told Aljazeera.
“S*x work is normal work and there are sex workers everywhere under one form of disguise or the other. The government should stop criminalising our work”, she further said.

Backing Abraham’s point, Elvis said for failing to legalize prostitution, the group would not support Jonathan for a second term.

“We sent a proposal to the government in March 2, 2012, almost a year after Jonathan was fully elected as president of Nigeria on the need to legalize prostitution. That was when our late president, Micah Ejoyo was alive, but the presidency rather declared war on us by arresting some members on the street of Abuja.
“Most of them are students who are using the job to pursue their education. We all cannot work in Aso Rock, NNPC or Shell. We don’t rob people. We are using our endowment to fend for ourselves. We deserve to be respected. Enough of this hypocrisy because even Jonathan and his team are not saints.”

Speaking further, the statement as obtained by DAILY POST on Friday enjoined all members of the association to come out en mass come February 14 to vote out Jonathan from Aso Rock.

We are calling on all our members and every Nigerian in particular to join the march. No to Jonathan! Because under Jonathan’s government, we lost over 400 members in the north to the Boko Haram insurgency and we are not ready to lose anybody again. We would be declaring a three-day free sex if God eventually sends Jonathan out of Aso Rock. You can count on us. We did it before and we can do it again. Enough is enough,”

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4 ultimate sex moves to set your love on fire

Is there a crack in your relationship, leaving you
scared that the fire is going out? Well, its time
to make a move and get your love back on track
with these ultimate sex moves.

You, yes, you, listen to me… or should I say read
on?
Have you been experiencing a crack in your
relationship? Is your lover being a little bit
lethargic? Are you afraid that the fire is going
out?
If yes to any of the above, permit Wha’anda to
tell you that something is missing relationship—
hot sex!

Solution? Get the fire back…

1. Talk, ask, listen.

The first step to getting any
relationship back on track is to talk. You can
start the talk with some romantic moment, a
kiss or a hug can set it off. Things could get
messy from there. Remember to talk about
his/her sex and sexual fantasies/
inadequacies.

2. Try oral.
Trust Wha’anda , there is nothing
more intimate than oral sex for two partners
that are comfortable with each other. If you
have not been adding oral sex to the sex
menu, the weekend is a good time to try it
out with your partner. A good mouth job has
a more lasting effect than 'proper sex' and it
can lead to intense arousal. But try to get a
shower first.

3. Watch something sexy, like porn. Forget all
that talk about porn being bad for you.
Truth
is you and your lover could do you know that
both men and women like sex? It is a good
turn on for many people. A soft porn movie
may be a way to start before you move to
hard-core stuff.

4. Try a new sex position:
You need to
introduce something new to your sex life.
One of the new things you could do is to
bring in a new sex position. The conventional
missionary style is boring and you might
want to do some kinky stuff. (Get some
ideas here). » The doggy style is one of the
best positions to guarantee maximum sexual
satisfaction for both of you because it puts
the man in control and hits the woman’s G-
spot
5. Create a shower hour moment together.
Have
you had a shower moment with your lover? It
can be really intimate and fires can start from
there. Take turns scrubbing each other and
then have sex standing. It will be cook to
install a hand rail in your shower.

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Ben Okri gets nominated for 'bad sex' award

Lagos - UK based Nigerian writer Ben Okri’s The Age of Magic has
been nominated in the shortlist for the Literary Review Bad Sex in
Fiction award, The Guardian reports.
The Nigerian author and Booker winner in the book describes a scene
in which a woman becomes “aware of places in her that could only have
been concealed there by a god with a sense of humour”. This earned
him the nomination.

Richard Flanagan who won the last Booker prize with The Narrow
Road to the Deep North, is also shortlisted for the award.
Pulitzer prize-winning author Michael Cunningham‘s The Snow Queen
was also nominated.

The Literary Review sets out to find “the most egregious passage of
sexual description in a work of fiction”, and describes itself as
“Britain’s most dreaded literary prize”.

Established by Auberon Waugh in 1993, its purpose is to draw
attention to “perfunctory or redundant passages of sexual
description in modern fiction, and to discourage them”, with former
winners including Sebastian Faulks, AA Gill and Melvyn Bragg.

We streak like superheroes past suns and solar systems, we dive
through shoals of quarks and atomic nuclei. In celebration of our
breakthrough fourth star, statisticians the world over rejoice.”
This year’s winner will be announced on 3 December.

The shortlist in full:

The Snow Queen by Michael Cunningham
The Narrow Road to the Deep North by Richard Flanagan
The Hormone Factory by Saskia Goldschmidt
Colorless Tsukuru Tazaki and His Years of Pilgrimage by Haruki
Murakami
The Age of Magic by Ben Okri
The Affairs of Others by Amy Grace Loyd
Desert God by Wilbur Smith
Things to Make and Break by May-Lan Tan
The Lemon Grove by Helen Walsh
The Legacy of Elizabeth Pringle by Kirsty Wark

Read more at TheGuardianUK

- Guardian

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How we use sex to manipulat

Do you find yourself in a situation where someone else is making you
feel uncomfortable in terms of their sexual ideas or intent?

Are you starting to feel scared or worthless in the company of this
person?
If this sounds familiar, you may be falling victim to sexual emotional
manipulation.
Always an unhealthy situation
Sex and emotional manipulation is always an unhealthy and possibly
dangerous situation.

The fact is that emotional manipulation can hold a person
psychologically captive. What makes this kind of manipulation even
more dangerous is that the person being manipulated might not even
be aware that they’re being manipulated.
When another person or partner starts playing manipulative sexual
games with you, it should be a red flag and a warning sign that the
relationship or the sexual intent of the person may be warped and
dysfunctional.

A skilled emotional manipulator will try to gain your trust, and will
then slowly make sure they break down your self-worth and self-
esteem until you start feeling worthless. You may start doubting
yourself and your decisions.
In a sexual relationship, this creates a severe power imbalance. If
you’re in a situation like this, you’re most likely slowly entering into
an abusive sexual relationship.
Are you being manipulated?
Initially, it might be difficult to determine whether you’re in a
relationship where you’re being emotionally manipulated with sex.
Look for the following red flags:

• The person often lies about their sexual expectations or changes
their expectations to something that might seem unfair or unrealistic
to you.

• The person often spins the facts regarding your sex life to change
your perspective. In this way, he or she can covertly or overtly
intimidate you. For example, the person may use the following phrase:
“If you don’t have sex with me tonight, I’ll leave you or I’ll have sex
with someone sexier.” This kind of person is a master in “guilt
tripping”, and will make sure you feel bad about yourself if you don’t
meet their sexual needs.

• The person projects blame and plays the victim. He or she rarely
takes responsibility for their inappropriate behaviour and choices.
Beware of the sexual psychopath
In his book, Without Conscience: The Disturbing World of the
Psychopaths Among us (1993), Prof Robert Hare describes an extreme
form of sex and emotional manipulation when he refers to the concept
of the sexual psychopath.
Hare points out that rape is a good example of the callous, selfish use
of violence by psychopaths and proposes that half of serial rapists may
be psychopaths.

Their behaviour, he writes, often results from a potent combination
of:

• Uninhibited expression of their sexual desires and fantasies
• A desire for power and control
• Perception of the victims as objects of pleasure and satisfaction
This idea of control is very important: when a person is involved in a
sexual relationship, you could say they’re revealing themselves;
they’re giving the most intimate aspect of themselves. Many
psychopaths realise this and make use of it in a manipulative way.

Sexual psychopaths want complete control over another individual and
are masters in manipulation. Sexual submission through their
manipulation tactics and emotional abuse is often the final step in the
objectification of the victim.

These dangerous individuals use the tools and techniques of mind
control to influence others. A sexual relationship in this situation
means that there’s neither informed consent on the part of the
victim, nor a relationship of equals, because the power is with the
deceiver. This makes it a situation of sexual abuse.

A psychopath will often create an intimate relationship which, in
turn, leads to a sexual relationship. The psychological abuse makes
the sexual abuse possible, and the sexual abuse amplifies the effects
of the psychological abuse.
Sexual psychopaths who have learned how to use sex to control and
manipulate are particularly destructive.
Typically, the psychopath’s victim first doesn't want to talk about it.

Without understanding what happened, the victim may blame him or
herself; they may think that they deserved the abuse; or be so full of
shame at what happened to them in the hands of the sexual
psychopath that it seems easier to try and forget the whole thing.
A dangerous game
Sex and emotional manipulation can become a rather destructive and
dangerous game.

If, in any relationship, you become aware of these dynamics, it’s
important to seek help immediately and to talk to someone who can
help you to either get out of the relationship or to assess why this
dynamic is taking place. Getting professional assistance and advice is
incredibly important.

- Health24

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Question of the day: How many times a week should a couple have sex?

Me I think it should be twice a day. One when you wake up in the morning and once more before you sleep at night...(and any chance you get in between...hehe)..that's why I'm targeting a young husband. ..who's still capable...lol.

But seriously,

how many times do you think couples should have sex in a week? Twice? 3 times? Every night? Experts say love making shouldn't be timed and we should always allow things to flow naturally, that putting a time frame on it will only water down the passion and energy meant to be put into the act. Thoughts?

Meanwhile is it true that some of you men can go 4 rounds in one night...or is it just myth? 

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